Silence sets in. The sounds of little voices and happy giggles no longer fill my car. I look in the rearview at their empty car seats and my eyes begin to well up. It’s going to be a long week without them. Saying goodbye to my children for a whole week is the result of choices I’ve made. Questions arise and self-doubt creeps in. “Did I do the right thing by ending it?” “Could I have done anything differently?” “How are my kids handling everything?”  → Read More

In doing a Google search on the word co-parenting, I quickly found that co-parenting is a word we reserve for divorced families, not intact ones. Isn’t it strange that in 2012 we don’t have a word—a common vocabulary—to describe mothers and fathers fully sharing in the care of raising their children? Instead our collective norm has been to become co-parents only after the love relationship has ended and the heartache and expense of divorce have transpired.  → Read More

Have your ever felt that the whole world was suppressing you from trying to fulfill your aspirations? Are you convinced that you are alone in a world of solitude, where you depend only on your instincts and hope for a miracle?  → Read More

I hadn’t planned on being a father when I was 24. Honestly, I was still figuring out how to get better at pretending to be a grown up. It was only a few years later that it unraveled and we split. Single for the first time as an adult I found myself having the space to learn whatever answers I could discover—answers about life, women, and being true to myself. So what did I learn from my weekends and time alone with my daughter? This:  → Read More

I’m often asked, “Jeff, I don’t want my daughter to make the same mistakes I did, so what should she know about finances before she gets married?” and “Jeff, what’s the most important thing I should find out about my fiancé‘s finances before the Big Day?” The exact questions can vary, but my responses are generally very similar.  → Read More

Although there are many variations by racial and ethnic status, income, and occupation in the division of housework and the values that couples hold about both of them doing these chores, one of the biggest predictors of a wife’s marital satisfaction is whether she feels that the division of housework is fair.  → Read More